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Age-Play | Age-play consists, largely, of adults who get enjoyment out of dressing/acting like children or babies. The enjoyment may or may not be sexual in nature. |
Bareback, Barebacking, Going Bareback | The act of having some form of intercourse (oral, vaginal or anal) without a condom. |
BDSM | This is an acronym for Bondage Discipline Sadism Masochism (or Sado-Masochism). It is essentially shorthand for any of a large number of activities that fall under this description. |
Bisexual, bisexuality | Bisexuals are people who have a sexual attraction for the members of both (perhaps all) genders. Bisexuals may settle down in a monogamous relationship with a person of either gender, but this does not mean that they have "given up" their attraction to the other gender. |
Bondage | Bondage is the act of tying someone up. Sexually, however, it includes being aroused by either the act of tying someone up, viewing someone who is tied up, or by being tied up oneself. |
Bottom | In a fetish scene or relationship, this is the person who appears to be "powerless," i.e. the one being whipped, the one tied up... See also "Sub" |
Butt Plug | An insertable toy designed to fit safely and comfortably into the rectum for anal play. These may be made out of any number of substances, such as silicone, latex or vinyl. I recommend silicon. |
Cheating | Cheating occurs when you violate the mutually agreed upon terms of your relationship(s). |
Consent, Consensual | Consent is when someone agrees of their own free will and volition to engage in an activity (sexual or not) with another person. Some persons are considered incapable of giving consent, the mentally disabled, children, teenagers under the Age of Consent for their state of residence. |
Dildo | A dildo is an insertable toy designed to closely emulate the shape and contour of the penis. They come in a variety of designs, colors, materials, sizes and shapes. Some vibrate, some do not. |
Dom | Short for "Dominant" or "Dominatrix." The person in a relationship or scene who to all appearances wields the power, for example, the person wielding the whip, the person tying up the other person... See also "Top" |
Heterosexuality | Heterosexuals are people who are sexually attracted to members of the opposite gender (for example, male to female and vice versa). |
Homosexuals, Homosexuality | Homosexuals are sexually attracted to people of the same gender as the one with which they identify (for example male/male or female/female). |
Lesbian, Lesbianism | Lesbian is a specific term for female homosexuals, or women who are sexually attracted to women. |
Open Relationship | An Open Relationship is one in which the members have permission to date/have sex with people outside the relationship. These activities may be limited by mutually agreed upon terms and guidelines. |
Play | Play refers to, as it is used on this site, indulging in your various fetishes or kinks, i.e. anal- play, age- play, pony- play... |
Polyamory | The practice of forming relationships involving more than two people. This is probably the most basic definition I can come up with.
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Red Flag | A Red Flag is a warning sign. It is something that should tip you off that the person/situation you are getting involved with, or thinking of becoming involved with is not such a good idea. Anything that causes that tight feeling in your gut is probably a Red Flag. Listen to these warnings. |
Silicone | A boon to those of us with latex allergies. Silicone is soft, warms easily to body temperature and can be cleaned by running it through the dishwasher, and/or sterilized by boiling. Highly recommended as a material for sex toys. |
Sub | Short for "Submissive." This is someone who enjoys yeilding control in a play or sexual situation. While nearly all Subs "bottom" not all Bottoms are Subs. |
Top | The person in a relationship or scene who to all appearances wields the power, for example, the person wielding the whip, the person tying up the other person... See also "Dom" |
Transgender | Transgendered folks feel that they were born into a wrongly gendered body. For example, a male who feels he should have been born female, or vice versa. There are also transgendered people who feel more neuter and strive for that as an ideal. |
Transvestite | A transvestite is someone who enjoys dressing clothes traditionally worn by the opposite gender. It generally refers to a man who dresses as a woman. Transvestites are not necessarily homosexual or transgendered. |
